Isn’t it crazy how the most negative people are the same people that actually surround you and watch you plan your life.
Like as much as those people may be giving negative comments about someone who doesn’t know them or probably never will, it still kinda has a more huge effect on you. We don’t have to always address the negativity directed to you but also the passive negativity directed to someone else which comes back to bite you. The whole negativity spectrum has destroyed so many great people in the making. Well people in general.
I find myself being very conscious about the things I would say and do in my everyday life. To the point where just not saying anything or doing anything becomes such a norm. I legit became a cabbage because of how the people I would come across would just pin me back to my place every time I decided to pop up.
You just become a bystander watching your whole life move along whilst sitting on the side lines letting someone else live it for you. If You could You would burst open but You can’t because someone has made it their “one goal” to keep you out, directly or indirectly.
She can’t stand up and talk to a group of people, her voice is “too pitchy” or “too small “ and even if she likes modeling , her “weight is not appropriate how would she even fit in”, okay then here she is let her sing, “I don’t think her voice is unique enough”. Okay then drawing something, “no one will like the design, I most definitely don’t”. Then what ? Sit down and just watch the best be the best! What if That’s the best. Think about it. Just because you don’t like the idea of it, doesn’t mean you should crush it and ruin it for everyone else.
The whole “surround yourself with people who believe in you” motto sounds easy enough right. I do believe that some of these people believe in you just to sit down and cheer them on. They won’t say it no, but they’ll show it when they start demanding it. And once they do trust me it’s clearly seen. Yes sometimes they might actually be a very positive aura in your life but what about the other person’s life.
It’s just a joke”, “don’t take it personal”, “I’m just saying”, “that’s just how I see it”. DON’T SAY IT. I might not get the impact of your joke that very instant but the next time I want to do something similar, boom, “that stupid head you drew is hella ugly” pops up, I quit. Cause the moment you pushed her down you pushed me down.
I’ve never really planned my friends, but I thank God that most of the ones I have are on the right page. I feel like the whole “trust your gut” thing plays a major role. If My gut says girl she ain’t good, we bounce. Saves you a lot of stress.
And you get those people, “don’t listen to what people say unless it’s good” “do you boo”.
They make it so easy, it actually is though. First be genuinely positive to yourself and to the next person, and having a double sided positive energy is gonna help you drive the motto “do you boo”